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How To Master the Physics of Magic

October 14, 2024 by Chuck Leave a Comment

Have you ever wondered how martial artists can break boards, bricks and bottles?

Breaking is a common exercise in martial arts to demonstrate the unification of body, mind, and spirit.

It is an opportunity for the practitioner to display how he can hone his complete focus to one specific task.

It is what takes the theoretical to the physical, and you can see this with any true expert of a particular art.

It’s why when we see some athletes doing the near-miraculous that leaves us with our jaws open and hearts soaring.

It’s how

The Leicester Foxes beat 5000-1 odds to win the Premiere Cup

The USA Olympic Hockey team beat the behemoth Soviet Union

Buster Douglas shocked the world KOing an invincible “Iron” Mike Tyson

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And this power is not only for those elite few.

But for anybody willing to hone and own this power.

Imagine a world where your thoughts, words, and actions are not just random occurrences but are manifestations of energy, vibrating at different frequencies.

This might sound like something from a sci-fi movie, but it’s ancient wisdom, known to Indian Hindu scientists thousands of years ago.

The principles they explored millennia before modern technology even existed are now being validated by cutting-edge science.

Fritjof Capra, a renowned physicist, famously explored this connection between ancient spirituality and modern quantum physics in his book The Tao of Physics.

His work, alongside others, highlights a reality that spiritual traditions have long understood: everything in the universe is energy, and this energy takes form through vibration and frequency.

So what does this mean for you?

The thoughts you think, the words you speak, and the actions you take are all energetic expressions of your consciousness.

And the density, intensity, and intention behind them determine how far you can go in life.

Success doesn’t start with some external event—it begins with the energy you create from within.

Let’s explore how energy shapes your reality and how you can harness it for your own growth.

Connection is the Key

We live in a world obsessed with outcomes—chasing money, success, relationships, and happiness.

But we often fail to address the most critical aspect of getting what we want: the energy behind our thoughts and actions.

Have you ever felt stuck, despite working hard, saying the right things, or even being in the right place at the right time?

Maybe you’ve experienced moments of clarity when everything seemed to fall into place, but they were fleeting.

What makes the difference between those rare, magical moments and the mundane reality where things don’t work out?

It comes down to the density and intensity of your energy.

Most people don’t realize that their thoughts, words, and actions are disconnected.

They’re thinking one thing, saying another, and doing something entirely different.

This disconnect dilutes your energy, causing confusion in the universe and slowing down your progress.

Let’s break it down:

Thoughts are the seeds of everything you create. But they’re fleeting, ephemeral. Without focus, they scatter in all directions like sand in the wind.

Words are more tangible, but if they’re not backed by belief, they’re empty vessels.

Actions bring thoughts into the physical realm, but without intention, they often lead nowhere.

Most people struggle because they haven’t aligned their thoughts, words, and actions to vibrate at the same frequency.

Most People Live Out of Alignment

This lack of alignment is why so many people live in a state of frustration, disappointment, and unfulfilled potential.

You can feel it when you’re not in sync with yourself, and it shows up in all areas of your life.

Maybe you’ve been working on a project or goal, but progress is painstakingly slow. You wonder if you’re wasting your time, but deep down, you feel like you’re meant for more.

Or you’ve found yourself speaking about your dreams, making bold declarations, but nothing seems to come to fruition. Despite all the talk, you’re still stuck in the same place, year after year.

Perhaps you’ve even taken significant action—made investments, started a business, or worked toward a career change. But the results you envisioned are nowhere to be found.

This inconsistency between what you think, what you say, and what you do creates an energetic dissonance.

It’s like tuning into multiple radio stations at once—you end up hearing nothing but static.

But here’s the harsh reality: the universe doesn’t respond to scattered, inconsistent energy.

If your thoughts are scattered, your words are uncommitted, and your actions are half-hearted, the energy you project into the world is weak and fragmented.

You’ll always get back what you put out, and if what you’re putting out is incoherent, you’ll receive confusion and delays in return.

You’re in a constant state of “almost” — almost succeeding, almost happy, almost satisfied.

W. H. Murray famously said,

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness.

Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.

All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred.

A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in ones favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.

I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets:

“Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it.

Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it!””

What most people don’t realize is that this commitment is not just about taking action—it’s about committing your energy, fully aligning your thoughts, words, and actions to a singular focus.

Aligning the Head, Heart, and Gut

So how do you overcome this?

How do you move from scattered, weak energy to focused, intentional, and aligned energy that propels you forward?

It starts with understanding that everything is energy.

When you become aware of this fundamental truth, you realize that every thought, word, and action you take carries weight.

Every time you let your thoughts drift or fail to follow through on your words, you weaken your energetic force.

The goal is to become a master of your energy, to align your thoughts, words, and actions so they vibrate at the same frequency.

Here’s how you can begin:

Master Your Thoughts

Your mind is the starting point for everything you create in life.

Thoughts are where your energy begins to take shape.

But as we know, thoughts are fleeting and can be difficult to control.

That’s why countless ancient teachings, from As a Man Thinketh to Think and Grow Rich, emphasize controlling your mind.

If you want to change your life, you must first control your thoughts.

Focus on what you want, not what you fear. Most people waste their mental energy worrying about what could go wrong. The more energy you give to those thoughts, the more likely they are to manifest.

Practice mental discipline. Train your mind to stay focused on a single thought for extended periods. Meditation, visualization, and journaling can help you sharpen this skill. The longer you hold a thought, the more power it gains.

Speak with Intention: Words are not just sound; they are energy that carries your thoughts into the world. If your words lack conviction or are filled with doubt, you weaken the power of your thoughts. When you speak, speak with the intention to create. Your words should reinforce your thoughts, not contradict them.
- Speak in alignment with your goals. Don’t talk about what you’re going to do someday. Talk as if it’s already happening. This creates a mental shift that primes you for action.
- Eliminate negative language. Every time you say, “I can’t,” “I’m not,” or “It’s too hard,” you’re sending energy that weakens your resolve. Replace those words with empowering language that aligns with what you want to create.

Take Bold, Aligned Action: Thought and words alone won’t create change—action is the final step in the manifestation process. But not just any action. You need bold, decisive action that aligns with your thoughts and words.
- Commit fully. Half-hearted actions yield half-hearted results. When you decide to move, move with intensity. As W. H. Murray wrote, “Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.”
- Trust the process. You may not see immediate results, but when your energy is aligned, the universe starts to work in your favor. As Murray also said, “Providence moves too.” Unforeseen opportunities, connections, and resources will appear to help you along your path.

Putting It All Together

Energy, frequency, and vibration are not just abstract ideas—they are the foundation of everything you experience in life.

Once you understand that every thought, word, and action carries energy, you can begin to consciously shape your reality.

The ancient Indian scientists knew this, long before particle accelerators and quantum physics validated their teachings.

And now you have the power to apply this wisdom in your own life.

If you want more success, happiness, or fulfillment, the first step is to become aware of your energy.

Are your thoughts aligned with your goals?

Do your words carry the intention of success?

Are your actions bold and aligned?

The more you align your thoughts, words, and actions with the energy of your desired outcome, the faster you will attract it.

As Arthur C. Clark stated;

“Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic.”

But it’s not magic—it’s physics.

The universe responds to focused, intentional energy, and when you commit fully, it commits right back.

So the next time you find yourself stuck or wondering why things aren’t working out, take a moment to check your energy.

Align your thoughts, words, and actions—and watch how the world shifts in your favor.

As W. H. Murray said, “Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.”

The question is,

Are you ready to step into that boldness?

If you want more success, more growth, or a deeper connection to your purpose, it starts with mastering your energy.

How to Get Ahead of 99% of People in Life and Work

October 3, 2024 by Chuck Leave a Comment

Why Ancient Martial Arts Hold the Key to Solving Modern Problems for Young Men Today

In today’s fast-paced, digitally-driven world, young men face a new set of challenges that their fathers and grandfathers could hardly have imagined.

The blend of physical inactivity, fear, and uncertainty about the future has led to a crisis affecting health, mental well-being, and overall life satisfaction.

However, an ancient practice holds the key to addressing these modern problems: martial arts.

Martial arts are not just about self-defense; they are a way of life, a philosophy that builds discipline, resilience, and strength in body and mind.

The Crisis of Inactivity and Fear

Modern life, with all its conveniences, has created an environment where physical activity is no longer a necessity.

This sedentary lifestyle, often fueled by hours spent scrolling through social media or playing video games, is contributing to an alarming increase in health issues among young men.

According to the World Health Organization, more than 80% of the world’s adolescent population is insufficiently physically active, and young men are no exception.

To build a strong successful life, you need a strong body, mind and spirit

Physical Consequences

The effects of inactivity are stark and troubling.

The risk of obesity, cardiovascular disease, and diabetes is increasing among young men who spend most of their day sitting.

Beyond physical health, inactivity contributes to fatigue, low energy levels, and decreased motivation.

Here are some of the physical consequences of a sedentary lifestyle:

Weight Gain and Obesity – Sitting at a desk all day with minimal movement can lead to a calorie surplus, causing gradual weight gain over time.
Muscle Weakness and Atrophy – Lack of physical activity results in weaker muscles, making everyday tasks like climbing stairs or lifting objects harder.
Poor Posture and Back Pain – Prolonged sitting, especially with poor posture, can cause chronic back, neck, and shoulder pain.
Increased Risk of Heart Disease – Physical inactivity is linked to higher cholesterol levels and blood pressure, contributing to cardiovascular problems.
Reduced Flexibility and Mobility – Staying seated for long periods can stiffen joints and reduce range of motion, making movements like bending or stretching more difficult.
Increased Risk of Type 2 Diabetes – Sedentary behavior reduces insulin sensitivity, leading to higher blood sugar levels and increasing the risk of developing type 2 diabetes.
Bone Loss (Osteoporosis) – Without regular weight-bearing activities like walking or lifting, bones lose density, increasing the risk of fractures.
Increased Risk of Certain Cancers – Prolonged physical inactivity has been associated with a higher risk of colon, breast, and endometrial cancers.
Slowed Metabolism – Sitting for extended periods can reduce the body’s ability to break down fats and sugars, contributing to slower metabolism.
Decreased Circulation and Risk of Blood Clots – Prolonged sitting, especially during long flights or workdays, can lead to poor blood circulation and an increased risk of developing deep vein thrombosis (DVT).

Mental Consequences

Equally concerning is the rise of fear and anxiety.

In a world where images of perfection are broadcasted daily, young men are finding themselves trapped by the fear of failure and judgment.

Social media perpetuates a culture of comparison, where achievements are measured against carefully curated highlight reels, making the fear of not measuring up all the more intense.

Imagine waking up each day with a nagging sense of dread, knowing that your potential is wasted and your dreams are slipping away.

This fear-driven mindset can cripple decision-making, leading to missed opportunities and stunted growth.

Instead of facing challenges, many young men retreat to their comfort zones, trapped by the very fears they seek to escape.

Here are some mental consequences of a sedentary lifestyle:

Increased Risk of Depression – Prolonged inactivity can contribute to feelings of isolation and sadness. Someone who spends most of their time indoors without social interaction may experience a growing sense of disconnection and sadness.
Cognitive Decline – Lack of physical activity can impair memory, focus, and problem-solving skills. A person who sits at a desk all day may find it harder to concentrate or recall information as time goes on.
Anxiety – Sedentary behavior may increase stress levels, leading to anxiety. Without regular physical outlets for stress, a person may experience restlessness and worry, feeling overwhelmed by everyday tasks.
Decreased Motivation – Physical inactivity can lead to a sense of lethargy and lack of drive to engage in tasks or goals. Someone who spends most of their day sitting in front of the TV may feel unmotivated to pursue hobbies or goals they once enjoyed.
Poor Sleep Quality – A sedentary lifestyle can disrupt sleep patterns, leading to insomnia or restless sleep. A person who doesn’t get enough physical movement during the day may struggle to fall asleep at night and wake up feeling fatigued.
Low Self-Esteem – Reduced physical activity can affect body image and self-perception, leading to lower self-worth. Someone who avoids physical activity may become dissatisfied with their appearance and feel less confident in social situations.
Decreased Mental Resilience – A lack of regular physical exertion can reduce your ability to cope with stress and challenges. A person who doesn’t engage in physical activities might feel mentally drained or overwhelmed by setbacks that they would have previously handled better.
Emotional Instability – Sedentary behavior can negatively affect mood regulation, leading to more frequent mood swings. A person leading a sedentary lifestyle may feel irritable or angry without clear reasons, reacting more emotionally to small problems.

But here’s the thing: these problems don’t magically disappear with age.

Inactivity and fear will compound, turning into regret and unfulfilled potential if left unchecked.

The longer you allow these issues to persist, the more daunting they become, creating a cycle that is hard to break.

Martial Arts as a Solution

Enter martial arts—a discipline that offers a powerful counter to the modern malaise of inactivity and fear.

At its core, martial arts is about transformation: of the body, the mind, and the spirit.

It’s about learning to fight not just opponents, but also the battles within.

Physical Benefits

Martial arts training is an antidote to the sedentary lifestyle.

It is a full-body workout that builds strength, flexibility, and endurance.

Whether you’re practicing Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, Muay Thai, or traditional karate, you’ll find yourself moving in dynamic ways that challenge every muscle group.

This physical exertion not only improves fitness but also boosts energy levels and enhances overall well-being.

I’ve seen this countless times in my decades on the mat.

Consider a young man who walks into a dojo for the first time.

He is out of shape, anxious, and unsure of himself. As he starts training, he feels muscles he didn’t know he had.

Each session leaves him sweating and exhausted, but with each drop of sweat, he sheds a layer of self-doubt.

He begins to stand a little taller, move with a little more purpose. His body becomes a vehicle of empowerment, a testament to his dedication and growth.

Mental Resilience

Beyond the physical, martial arts training is a mental journey.

Every punch, kick, and block is an opportunity to face and overcome fear.

In the dojo, failure is not something to be feared; it is embraced as a learning experience.

Every time you fall, you get back up. Every time you miss a target, you adjust and try again.

This process builds resilience, teaching you that setbacks are not the end but a stepping stone to success.

I can personally attest to this, as a physically small guy, I was always facing guys bigger and stronger than me.

On the mat, you face opponents who test your limits.

The fear of getting hit or taken down is real, but it’s also an opportunity to confront that fear head-on.

In doing so, you learn that fear is not an obstacle but a signal that you’re stepping out of your comfort zone.

With each sparring session, you develop a mental toughness that translates into everyday life.

You become more confident in your ability to face challenges, both big and small.

Emotional Growth

So many conflicts occur due to emotional insecurities or sensitivity.

Martial arts training allows you to experience the full range of your emotions on a regular basis.

From mind-numbing fear from sparring/rolling with more powerful partners.

To the joy of facing fear and coming through on the other side, not only better but also more confident for having faced your fears.

And most important, the comradery you feel with your fellow students as you work together to support and challenge each other to be better warriors, leaders, and human beings.

When I was younger, insecure and full of fear, every little challenge would set me off, either exploding in anger or cowering in fear.

But as I began to train, first in Aikido, then later Hapkido and other styles, I developed the emotional resilience and strength to better relax and not take things personally.

Things that would set me off when I was younger, like somebody bumping into me in public, not only didn’t bother me but it also helped me to develop the situational awareness to avoid such missteps in the first place.

And if little bumps did happen, I could happily and easily defuse the situation because I knew apologizing and checking to see if the other person was okay, in no way, took away from my strength or “manhood.”

Achieving Long-Term Goals

Martial arts is not about instant gratification; it’s about commitment and perseverance.

The journey from white belt to black belt is a long one, requiring years of practice, dedication, and hard work.

This path mirrors the journey of life, where achieving meaningful goals requires patience and persistence.

Discipline and Focus

Martial arts teach you the importance of discipline.

Training requires you to show up consistently, even on days when motivation is low.

This discipline becomes a habit that spills over into other areas of your life.

You learn to set goals, prioritize your time, and focus on what truly matters.

I knew this guy, let’s call him Alex, a young professional struggling to stay motivated at work.

After starting martial arts training, he noticed a shift in his mindset.

The discipline he cultivated on the mat began to influence his approach to work.

He became more organized, more efficient, and more determined to achieve his career goals.

The lessons learned in the dojo helped him rise to challenges, transforming him into a leader in his field.

Perseverance

In martial arts, progress is slow but steady.

There are no shortcuts to mastery.

This teaches you the value of perseverance—the ability to keep going despite setbacks and obstacles.

Whether you’re working towards a promotion or a personal goal, the perseverance you develop in martial arts will serve you well.

A hapkido classmate I’ll call Sarah, a student who struggled with self-doubt.

Through martial arts, she learned the importance of perseverance.

When she faced a particularly challenging technique, she didn’t give up.

Instead, she kept practicing, adjusting her approach until she succeeded.

This perseverance helped her not only in martial arts but also in her studies, where she overcame academic hurdles and achieved her dreams.

The Dojo: A Microcosm of Life

The lessons learned on the mat extend far beyond the dojo.

The dojo becomes a microcosm of life—a place where you learn to navigate challenges, build relationships, and develop the skills necessary for success in all areas of life.

Problem-Solving Skills

In martial arts, every movement is a problem to be solved.

You learn to analyze your opponent’s moves, anticipate their next step, and find creative solutions.

This problem-solving mindset is invaluable in life and work, where challenges often require innovative thinking.

Imagine being in a tight spot during sparring, with your opponent applying pressure.

You can’t rely on brute force alone.

You must think strategically, using technique and leverage to find a way out.

This skill translates to life, where obstacles often require thoughtful analysis and creative solutions.

Community and Belonging

Martial arts foster a sense of community and belonging.

In the dojo, you are part of a team, working together to achieve common goals.

This sense of camaraderie provides support and encouragement, helping you stay motivated on your journey.

Many young men find themselves feeling isolated and disconnected in today’s digital world.

The dojo offers a space where they can connect with others who share their values and aspirations.

Through shared experiences, they build friendships that extend beyond the mat, creating a support network that helps them navigate life’s challenges.

A Prettier Vision of the Solution

Imagine waking up each day with a sense of purpose and confidence.

Your body is strong, your mind is sharp, and you have the tools to tackle whatever life throws your way.

The fear that once held you back is now a motivator, pushing you to embrace challenges and grow.

This is the vision that martial arts offers—a future where you are empowered to live life to the fullest.

Transforming Fear into Fuel

Martial arts teaches you to view fear not as an enemy but as a catalyst for growth.

You learn to harness fear’s energy, using it to propel you forward rather than hold you back.

Picture yourself standing in front of a board, ready to break it with a powerful strike.

The fear of failure looms large, but instead of succumbing to it, you channel that fear into focus.

With a swift, decisive movement, the board breaks, symbolizing the shattering of limitations in your life.

Building Resilience for Life’s Challenges

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity, and martial arts provide the perfect training ground.

You learn to weather storms with grace and strength, emerging stronger on the other side.

In martial arts, setbacks are inevitable.

Whether it’s a loss in competition or a difficult technique, you learn to pick yourself up and keep moving forward.

This resilience becomes a part of who you are, helping you face life’s challenges with unwavering determination.

Only by going too far can you find out how far you can go, building the resilience that will serve you well in life.

I found this out in 1992, when sparring a bit too hard, I got my spleen ruptured and later removed in the hospital.

Many students and some instructors were shocked to see me return to the mat about a year later, but to me it made perfect sense.

I wanted to learn how to never be injured like that again by training even smarter and not being a quitter.

Call To Action

It’s time to take action.

If you’re tired of feeling stuck and want to break free from the cycle of inactivity and fear, martial arts could be the answer.

Explore local dojos or online programs, and take the first step toward transforming your life.

Whether you’re interested in karate, jiu-jitsu, or taekwondo, there’s a style and instructor that will be well-suited to your particular needs.

In my many years of training, I’ve worked with people in wheelchairs, without the use of their arms, AARP card-carrying seniors, kids, and everything in between.

Remember, martial arts aren’t just about fighting; they’re about fighting for a better version of yourself.

Start Your Journey

Research local martial arts schools and find one that resonates with you.

Attend a trial class, speak with instructors, and get a feel for the community.

The first step is often the hardest, but it’s also the most important.

This is what I tell people when they ask me how to get started;

First, find all of the schools in a 15-20 minute radius of your home. You don’t want to use travel time as one more excuse for not training when you’re tired, burnt out and had a stressful day. And it will happen.

Make a list of all of the schools and you will check all of them out before you make a choice.

Now for each school, enter the school from their main entrance, this is especially true if they have a back door to the parking area. When you step into the main entrance, step off to the side so that you’re not blocking the entrance and stop. Close your eyes and “feel” the place.

If it doesn’t feel good for any reason, don’t say anything, just turn around and walk out.

If it does feel good, great! See about watching a beginner class. You will not be watching for what they are learning, what you’re watching for is how does the instructor teach.

Watching the instructor does (s)he care for the students? Is he paying attention to what they are doing? Does he explain things clearly until understood?

Martial arts will challenge you to go to scary places, doing scary things, that is one of its biggest benefits. But you won’t do that if you don’t trust and respect the teacher, if the teacher doesn’t help you to feel safe.

That’s what you’re looking for.

After doing this for all the schools on your list, pick the one that felt the best, not what style you think is best, in the beginning you don’t know enough about the different styles to make that determination, yet.

Commit to training at that school for at least a year, hopefully going to 3 to 4 classes per week.

After a year of consistent training, you will then have a foundation of understanding to see if this is a place that you want to continue training at or if you need to pivot to a different style, school, or training system.

The Cure to Living a Life of Weakness

September 27, 2024 by Chuck Leave a Comment

The Way of the Warrior and How I Made It a Habit in My Life

Let’s cut right to the chase—most men today are weak.

Physically

Mentally

Emotionally

Spiritually

It’s a plague sweeping across society, and if you don’t fight against it every single day, you could get swallowed whole, like Brad Pitt facing waves of zombies in World War Z.

Brad Pitt making his way thru zombies in World War Z

The enemies are everywhere.

You can see them, feel them.

You can sense the creeping laziness, the settling mediocrity, and the growing comfort with weakness.

And what does this mean for you? It means you’re in a battle. A battle against:

The weakness of the body

The laziness of the mind

The timidity of the heart

The selfishness of the soul

The poverty toward others and yourself

Every day, the war wages on.

And if you’re not aware of it, you’re losing.

Weakness is Contagious

It starts slow.

First, you let yourself skip that workout.

You tell yourself it’s just one day.

You’re tired, you’ll get back to it tomorrow.

Then, tomorrow comes, and you skip it again because, well, now you’re in the habit of making excuses.

Then comes the mental laziness.

Why push yourself to read, to study, to expand your mind when it’s easier to scroll through social media or binge-watch Netflix?

What’s the harm, right?

Everyone’s doing it.

Then your heart.

You start avoiding tough conversations.

Why speak your truth when it’s easier to stay quiet and avoid conflict?

Why face rejection when you can keep playing small, safe, and comfortable?

Soon, selfishness takes over.

You stop thinking about how you can give more to others, to your family, your friends, your community.

You’re too focused on yourself.

You start hoarding time, energy, and resources.

And before you know it, you’re living in poverty.

Not just financial poverty, but spiritual and emotional poverty.

You’ve lost the richness of life—the drive, the purpose, the fulfillment that comes from living like a warrior, battling weakness at every turn.

The reality is, weakness is like gravity.

It pulls you down unless you fight against it every single day.

And it will turn you into a hollow version of yourself if you let it.

The path of least resistance is the path to weakness, and it’s seductive.

It’s always there, offering you comfort and ease.

But it’s a lie.

A trap.

Weakness in one area bleeds into every other area.

Physical weakness seeps into your mental strength

Mental laziness dulls your emotional intelligence

Emotional timidity shrinks your spiritual capacity

Everything is connected.

But the world has made it easy for you to fall into weakness.

Society rewards comfort, applauds mediocrity, and celebrates victimhood.

You can coast along, make excuses, blame others, and play it safe.

No one will call you out.

But you’ll feel it.

That nagging, deep-down feeling that you’re not living up to your potential.

That you’re not who you’re supposed to be.

And that’s where the battle begins.

Weakness Will Destroy You

Here’s the hard truth: weakness isn’t neutral.

It doesn’t just leave you where you are.

It drags you backward, slowly and subtly, until one day you wake up and realize you’re not just weak—you’re defeated.

Weakness will creep into every part of your life.

Your relationships will suffer because you’re too weak to lead, too weak to have hard conversations, too weak to be honest with yourself and others.

Your finances will crumble because you’re too lazy to build, too scared to take risks, too comfortable with being average.

You’ll spend your days scrolling, consuming, and doing nothing productive, all while telling yourself “I’ll do it tomorrow.”

Your mind will become soft because you’ll avoid challenges.

You’ll stop learning, stop growing.

You’ll retreat into a world of easy dopamine hits—food, entertainment, social media—anything to numb the fact that you’ve let yourself become soft.

Your body will fall apart.

You’ll get tired, weak, and out of shape because you’ve allowed yourself to skip workouts, ignore discipline, and justify laziness.

And most of all, your soul will shrink.

You’ll lose that fire, that sense of purpose, that warrior spirit that pushes you to be more, do more, and give more.

You’ll become selfish, living only for yourself and your own comfort.

This is the reality of weakness.

It destroys you from the inside out.

And once you’re in its grip, it’s damn hard to get out.

But there is a cure.

A way to fight back.

A way to reclaim your strength, your power, and your purpose.

Becoming the Warrior

The cure to living a life of weakness is simple, but not easy.

You have to fight.

Every.

Single.

Day.

Weakness doesn’t take a day off, and neither can you.

This battle is 24/7.

You don’t get weekends, holidays, or cheat days.

The fight against weakness is a daily commitment, and it’s the price you pay for living a life of strength, success, and fulfillment.

So, how do you fight?

How do you reclaim your power and live like a warrior?

1. Fight the Weakness of the Body

Your body is your temple.

It’s the foundation of everything.

If you’re physically weak, you’re mentally weak.

Start here.

Make the decision that you will not allow your body to atrophy.

Get up

Move

Train

Lift

Sweat

Every single day.

It doesn’t have to be complicated.

Start with simple, consistent actions.

Push-ups, running, walking, lifting weights.

The key is consistency.

Build the habit.

Make it non-negotiable.

Your body is the first line of defense in the war against weakness.

2. Fight the Laziness of the Mind

Your mind is a weapon.

Sharpen it every day.

Read books

Take courses

Listen to podcasts

Challenge yourself to think deeper, question assumptions, and learn new skills.

Mental laziness is easy to fall into because it feels harmless.

But it’s insidious.

If you stop growing, you start dying.

A weak mind leads to weak decisions, and weak decisions lead to a weak life.

3. Fight the Timidity of the Heart

Being brave isn’t about not feeling fear; it’s about moving forward despite it.

You have to train your heart to embrace challenges, conflict, and the unknown.

Take risks, even when you’re scared

Speak your truth, even when your voice shakes

Pursue your goals, even when you don’t feel ready

Timidity will ruin your life if you let it.

It will keep you small, scared, and stuck.

To live like a warrior, you must train your heart to be bold, courageous, and unrelenting.

4. Fight the Selfishness of the Soul

The warrior doesn’t live for himself.

He lives for something greater—his family, his community, his mission.

You have to get out of your own head and start giving more than you take.

Serve others.

Help those around you.

The more you give, the more you grow.

The more you grow, the more you become.

5. Fight the Poverty of Your Spirit

Finally, you must fight the poverty mindset.

This isn’t just about money.

It’s about abundance in all areas of life—abundance of energy, focus, love, and purpose.

Stop thinking small.

Stop playing safe.

Stop living like there’s not enough to go around.

A warrior doesn’t hoard.

He creates.

He multiplies.

He expands.

This is the opposite of weakness—it’s power, growth, and contribution.

The Warrior’s Code

Living a life of strength isn’t just about hitting the gym or making more money.

It’s about fighting the enemies of weakness wherever you find them—in your body, your mind, your heart, your soul, and your spirit.

If you let your guard down for even a day, weakness will take over.

But if you commit to the fight, if you refuse to live a life of mediocrity, then you will rise above the hordes of zombies living in comfort and ease.

You will stand strong, and your life will become a testament to what it means to be a warrior in a world of weakness.

So fight.

Every single day.

Are You Doom-Scrolling Social Media? 50 Things to Do Instead

September 13, 2024 by Chuck Leave a Comment

It happens.

It may even have happened to you.

You have 5 minutes to kill and instead of doing something productive, you open social media and next thing you know you’ve wasted too much damn time.

Not shaming you, I’ve been there myself.

That is why a few years ago I compiled a list for myself of things to do instead of opening up my phone and wasting time.

It dawned on me to share this list when a buddy at my BJJ school shared his frustration with social media and falling in.

Here’s my partial list, so I don’t firehose you with TMI.

Physical Health

Physical health is sorely lacking today.

With too much time at desk at work, on the sofa at home and stuck in your car or public transit going from home to work.

Here are 10 things you can do to get your body moving.

Stretching: Focus on areas like your neck, back, legs, and shoulders. Simple stretches like reaching for your toes or doing a chest opener can relieve tension.
Short Walk: Even a 5-10 minute walk can improve circulation, reduce stress, and boost your energy levels.
Bodyweight Exercises: Do a set of push-ups, squats, lunges, or planks. These exercises require no equipment and can be done in small spaces.
Breathing Exercises: Practice deep, diaphragmatic breathing or try box breathing (inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4, exhale for 4, hold for 4).
Hydrate: Drink a glass of water. Many of us are mildly dehydrated without realizing it.
Yoga Poses: Do a quick series of yoga poses like child’s pose, downward dog, or warrior pose to relieve tension and improve flexibility.
Foam Rolling: If you have a foam roller handy, use it to massage and relieve muscle tightness.
Dance: Put on your favorite song and dance around for a few minutes. It’s fun, energizing, and great for cardiovascular health.
Jump Rope or Jumping Jacks: If you have enough space, these are excellent ways to get your heart rate up.
Eye Health: Practice the 20-20-20 rule (every 20 minutes, look at something 20 feet away for 20 seconds) to reduce eye strain.

Mental Health and Relaxation

With all the stress of work, life and your relationships, who couldn’t use a little time out to relax and decompress?

Here are 10 healthier habits than distracting yourself with social media.

Meditation: Use apps or simple techniques to meditate for 5-10 minutes. Focus on your breath or use a guided meditation to clear your mind.
Gratitude Practice: Write down or mentally list 3 things you’re grateful for. This can shift your mindset to be more positive.
Visualization: Visualize your future goals or an ideal outcome to something you’re working on. This boosts motivation and reduces stress.
Mindfulness: Spend a few minutes in mindful observation, paying attention to your surroundings, senses, or thoughts without judgment.
Journaling: Write down your thoughts, ideas, or reflections. It helps clear mental clutter and can give you insights into your emotions.
Read a Book: Keep a book or e-reader handy. Even a few pages of fiction or nonfiction can be a productive way to spend time.
Learn Something New: Listen to a podcast or audiobook, or read an article on a topic that interests you.
Affirmations: Practice positive affirmations to boost your self-esteem and reinforce your goals.
Solve a Puzzle: Crossword puzzles, Sudoku, or brain teasers stimulate your brain and improve cognitive function.
Listen to Music or a Podcast: Choose calming music or an inspiring podcast to uplift your mood.

Productivity

It’s amazing how much you can do when you spend a few minutes here and there.

I always like to keep a list of what I’m working on and breaking them down into time categories.

Not all projects are “deep work” that need 3-4 hours of interrupted focus.

Some don’t even require a 25-minute Pomodoro session.

Sometimes 5 minutes is all you need to tidy up or get mental clarity on an upcoming project.

Obsidian.md — Using a system to manage your knowledge

Tidy Up Your Space: Organize your desk, clean out your bag, or declutter a small area. A tidy space promotes a clear mind.
Plan Your Day/Week: Take a moment to review your goals or to-do list. Prioritize tasks and schedule your next steps.
Brain Dump: Write down all the tasks, ideas, or thoughts swirling in your head. This can reduce overwhelm and improve focus.
Set a Small Goal: If you have time, work on a small part of a larger project. Breaking tasks into small chunks makes them more manageable.
Meal Prep or Plan: Use your time to plan healthy meals or snacks for the week. Prepping ingredients or making a grocery list can save time later.
Organize Digital Files: Spend a few minutes decluttering your phone or computer, deleting old emails, or organizing files.
Update Your Finances: Check your budget, track expenses, or review your financial goals.
Call or Text a Friend: Reach out to someone you haven’t talked to in a while. This strengthens relationships and can uplift both your mood and theirs.
Water Your Plants: If you have houseplants, use the time to water or care for them. It’s a small, peaceful activity that also brightens your environment.
Review a Bookmarked Article: Go through the articles or learning resources you’ve saved but haven’t had time to read.

Personal Growth

Every morning, I start my day with a 5-minute reading from the book, 365 Tao, by Deng Ming-Dao.

It gets my day started on the right foot and I’ve been reading it for over 20 years!

You can do the same for your own personal growth, in just 5 minutes per day.

Learn a New Skill: Spend a few minutes practicing a new language using apps like Duolingo or Babbel, or learn a new skill online.
Practice a Hobby: Whether it’s playing an instrument, sketching, or knitting, take some time to engage in a creative activity you enjoy.
Affirm Your Goals: Take time to review your long-term goals and affirm the steps you’re taking to achieve them.
Mentorship Notes: If you have mentors or role models, jot down questions or reflections to discuss next time you speak with them.
Read a Personal Development Book: Grab a personal development or self-help book that aligns with your current goals.
Work on a Puzzle or Brain Game: Keep your mind sharp with strategy-based games or puzzles like chess, Tetris, or even Rubik’s cubes.
Take a Skill-based Course: Platforms like Udemy or YouTube offer quick lessons in anything from coding to photography.
Revisit Your Vision Board: If you have a vision board, spend a few moments visualizing the achievements you want to manifest.
Learn a Recipe: Use the time to look up a healthy recipe you’ve been meaning to try.
Reflect on Wins: Jot down your recent achievements and wins, no matter how small, to boost confidence.

Emotional and Social Well-being

The one common factor that most longevity research has shown is that community and connection is the biggest factor for living a long and happy life.

Make those investments now by practicing these 5 habits each and every day.

Compliment Someone: Send a thoughtful compliment or message to someone. Boosting others’ morale also uplifts your own.
Acts of Kindness: Perform a random act of kindness, like donating to a cause, writing a positive review, or offering help to someone.
Hug or Pet Your Animal: If you have a pet, take time to cuddle or play with them. It boosts your mood and lowers stress levels.
Call a Loved One: Use the moment to strengthen your relationships by checking in on family or friends.
Express Gratitude: Send a thank-you note to someone who has helped you or made a positive impact in your life.

Miscellaneous

And a few more activities that you can do which is much better for you than social media.

Go Outside: Step outside for a few minutes to get fresh air and sunlight. Even a brief time outdoors can improve your mood.
Declutter Your Wallet/Purse: Clean out unnecessary receipts or items, and organize what you need.
Work on a Long-term Project: Dedicate a few minutes to progress on a passion project or something you’ve been meaning to get to.
Mindful Snacking: If you’re hungry, prepare and eat a healthy snack like fruit, nuts, or yogurt, and enjoy it mindfully without distractions.
Track Your Habits: Spend time reflecting on your habits or updating your habit tracker for a sense of progress and accountability.

By incorporating any of these activities, you’ll be able to use your free time in a way that contributes to your physical, mental, or emotional well-being without turning to the internet or social media.

“No F*cking Way!” My Mantra for Success, Happiness and a Life Worth Living

September 11, 2024 by Chuck Leave a Comment

How to Use Your Emotions to Achieve Your Goals and Dreams

In the world of online gurus, we’re constantly told to picture our dream life.

We’re encouraged to create vision boards, write out our ideal day, and envision every detail of the life we want to live.

These exercises are powerful tools, no doubt.

But here’s the harsh reality: while these practices can help, they often fall short.

Why?

Because so many people engage in these exercises yet still find themselves stuck, unable to achieve what they envision.

The problem is simple but profound.

We, as humans, are wired to be more motivated by fear and worry than by joy and dreams.

It’s a survival mechanism that’s kept our species alive for thousands of years.

This is why the news is filled with negativity.

“If it bleeds, it leads,” isn’t just a catchy phrase; it’s a reflection of human psychology.

We’re drawn to danger, to what could go wrong, because our brains are designed to protect us from threats.

But this isn’t all bad.

In fact, it’s a tool you can harness, not just to survive, but to thrive.

I call this the “No Fucking Way!” exercise.

This approach has been a cornerstone of my life, and it can be for yours too.

The Power of “No Fucking Way!”

Let me take you back to when I was just a kid.

My father grew up in a household filled with trauma and abuse.

Despite being an intelligent man, working on computer systems in the 1950s and 60s, he was also plagued by poor choices.

He was an alcoholic with a half-pint of Seagram’s VO always at hand, smoking unfiltered Camels, and spent most of his time lounging on the sofa, watching TV.

He died of emphysema at the age of 39.

I was only eight years old when I made a vow to myself: “I will never be like you. No fucking way.”

That moment wasn’t just a childish rebellion.

It was a declaration, a commitment to myself that I would not fall into the same traps.

My father’s life was a warning sign, a red flag waving furiously in front of me.

And I decided then and there that I would steer clear of everything he represented.

But it didn’t stop there.

As I grew older, I continued to observe the world around me.

I watched my older cousins make foolish decisions, I saw people around me struggle with obesity, laziness, and bullying.

Each time, I told myself, “No fucking way.”

This mindset became my guiding principle.

It wasn’t just about avoiding my father’s mistakes or the mistakes of others around me.

It was about using my fear, my disgust, and my anger as fuel to create the life I wanted.

My dream life wasn’t built solely on pursuing my dreams.

It was built on a refusal to fall into the same situations I saw others struggle with.

Harnessing Negative Emotions as Fuel

Most people shy away from their negative emotions.

They’re uncomfortable, unpleasant, and downright painful at times.

But here’s the truth: those emotions are some of the most powerful tools you have at your disposal.

The key is not to ignore them or suppress them, but to harness them, to use them as a driving force.

When you’re faced with a situation that fills you with fear, disgust, or anger, don’t run from it.

Embrace it.

Let it be the fire that fuels your journey.

Imagine you’re standing at a crossroads.

On one side is the life you don’t want—the one filled with poor decisions, bad habits, and regret.

On the other side is the life you dream of, filled with success, happiness, and fulfillment.

Which path do you think will get you moving faster?

The one where you casually stroll towards your dreams, or the one where you sprint away from the life you refuse to accept?

The “No Fucking Way!” exercise is about sprinting.

It’s about using the life you don’t want as a catalyst to propel you towards the life you do want.

Applying the “No Fucking Way!” Exercise in Your Life

So how do you apply this in your own life?

It starts with awareness.

You need to be brutally honest with yourself about what you don’t want.

This isn’t about being pessimistic or negative.

It’s about clarity.

It’s about being a warrior, planting your flag and standing up to any and all enemies that stand in your way.

It’s about knowing, deep down, what you absolutely refuse to tolerate in your life.

Identify the Warning Signs: Look at your life, your surroundings, and the people in it. What are the warning signs? What behaviors, habits, or situations do you find abhorrent? Write them down. Be specific.

Declare Your “No Fucking Way!” Moments: For each warning sign, declare your “No Fucking Way!” moment. This is your commitment to yourself that you will not fall into the same traps. Say it out loud if you need to. Feel the emotion behind it. Let it sink in.

Use These Moments as Fuel: Every time you’re faced with a challenge or a decision, remember your “No Fucking Way!” moments. Let them guide you. When you’re tempted to slack off, to take the easy road, or to make a poor decision, think about what you’re running from. Let that fear, disgust, or anger push you forward.

Balance with Positive Vision: While the “No Fucking Way!” exercise is powerful, it’s important to balance it with a positive vision of where you’re headed. It’s not enough to just run away from what you don’t want; you also need to run towards what you do want. Picture your dream life, but now, picture it with the fire of your “No Fucking Way!” moments behind it. The combination of these two forces—fear and desire—will make you unstoppable.

Turning Pain into Power

One of the biggest mistakes people make is thinking that pain is something to be avoided at all costs.

But pain is one of the most powerful motivators in existence.

When you learn to turn your pain into power, you become a force to be reckoned with.

Think about the people who have made the biggest changes in their lives.

More often than not, those changes were sparked by pain—whether it was the pain of a failed relationship, a health crisis, or hitting rock bottom in their career.

Pain has a way of cutting through the noise and getting us to focus on what really matters.

The difference between those who succeed and those who don’t isn’t that the successful people never experienced pain.

It’s that they used that pain as a catalyst for change.

When you engage in the “No Fucking Way!” exercise, you’re doing exactly that.

You’re taking the pain, the fear, and the anger you feel and turning it into something constructive.

You’re using it as a driving force to push you forward, to get you off your ass, and to keep you on the path.

The Yin and Yang of Motivation

Modern culture is obsessed with positivity.

We’re told to think happy thoughts, to focus on the good, and to always look on the bright side.

And while there’s value in that, it’s only half the picture.

In martial arts, there’s a concept called yin and yang—the balance of opposites.

Light and dark, hard and soft, positive and negative.

One cannot exist without the other.

The same is true for motivation.

You need both the positive and the negative to create balance.

You need the vision of where you’re going and the fear of where you don’t want to be.

This is the true yin and yang of motivation.

By incorporating the “No Fucking Way!” exercise into your life, you’re embracing this balance.

You’re not just relying on positive affirmations or vision boards to get you where you want to go.

You’re also tapping into the raw, primal emotions that drive human behavior—fear, disgust, and anger.

And when you can harness both sides of the coin, you become unstoppable.

A Personal Story: From Fear to Freedom

Let me share with you a personal story that illustrates this concept.

When I was in my 20s, I had a job that I absolutely hated when I first moved to LA.

The pay was terrible, the work was mind-numbing, and the company was run by crooks.

Every day, I felt like I was dying a little inside.

For a few months, I did nothing about it.

I stayed in that job, miserable but comfortable in my misery. (The devil you know, and all that…)

Then one day, I hit a breaking point.

Something inside me snapped.

I remember going home that night, sitting in the dark, and feeling a surge of anger and fear like I’d never felt before.

I couldn’t take it anymore.

I couldn’t imagine me being here for another year, let alone as a career.

“No fucking way,” I told myself. “I will not spend the rest of my life in this hell.”

That moment of pain and anger became the fuel I needed to make a change.

I quit my job the next day, with no real plan, no safety net, and no idea what I was going to do next.

But that fear of staying where I was—of living a life of quiet desperation—was greater than my fear of the unknown.

That was the beginning of my journey to where I am today.

And I can honestly say, if it weren’t for that “No Fucking Way!” moment, I might still be stuck in that dead-end job, miserable and unfulfilled.

Your “No Fucking Way!” Moment

Everyone has their own “No Fucking Way!” moments—those instances where you draw a line in the sand and refuse to cross it.

The key is to recognize those moments, to use them as fuel, and to let them propel you towards the life you want.

So I ask you: What are your “No Fucking Way!” moments?

What are the situations, behaviors, or lifestyles that you absolutely refuse to accept in your life?

Write them down.

Declare them out loud.

And then use them as the fire that drives you forward.

Because at the end of the day, it’s not just about chasing your dreams.

It’s about running from the nightmare of a life you refuse to live.

And when you combine that with a clear vision of where you’re headed, you become an unstoppable force, capable of achieving anything you set your mind to.

“Hate where you are so much, it gets you off your ass.
Love where you’re going so much, it keeps you on the path.”

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